I was behind on updating this blog, with posts half-finished, for months.
And then the world came derailed.
Like many of you, I saw any number of threads of my life start to unspool at the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. Like many of you, I have been told to work remotely (which is difficult because of what I study, and also because teaching online classes when you’re not trained to do so is a sure way to get a bad headache), and am practicing social distancing by basically not seeing my friends in-person, going to my weekly sports league (also put on hold), and staying in my apartment with my dog as much as I can. (I am, however, rapidly catching up on the TV on my watch list.) A project I’ve worked hard to prepare to put in the field likely has to be put on hold because I can’t do community-based recruitment right now.
I know this is hard. Not being able to see other people is really, really hard, and public health experts are saying we will need to maintain social distancing measures for a minimum of 6 weeks, and very likely the time scale will range from several months up to a year or more. At some point, we will have to start balancing social distancing with our need to have our lives back, but for now, we need to make things work in our current situations. We all need to work together to flatten the curve, and the best way we can do that is by following the guidelines for social distancing to minimize the spread of the virus as much as possible.
FOOD
I’m sure you’ve already been told to make sure that you have enough shelf-stable/freezer-stable food to last up to 2 weeks, in case you have to self-quarantine or self-isolate. If you are able to find them, I encourage you to consider looking at ways to use various kinds of beans, lentils, and dried peas. Tofu is fridge-stable for up to 6 weeks, and many meats can be frozen (I’m a particular fan of frozen fish). We’ll deal with that later, though, because right now, supermarkets around the country are a disaster.
If you are suddenly going to be home a lot more than often, you are likely to be snacking more than usual. So as much as it is possible, make sure you have healthy snacks on hand, like fresh fruit (apples, pears, kiwis, oranges, and grapefruits are all in season right now, and mangoes, blueberries, and strawberries are all coming into season!), snack-able veggies like carrots, celery, and sugar snap peas. Consider pairing them with peanut butter or hummus to add a little extra flavor and protein. If you can get them, cheese and crackers, peanut butter crackers, or granola bars can all be good snacks. For more ideas, check out my previous piece On Snacking.
LOVE (Romantic and Platonic)
If you’re like me, and you’re single (and therefore not hunkered down with your significant other), this is particularly frustrating. My generation has kind of forgotten how to date: apps have made connections instantaneous and have allowed us to not really put effort into building them if they do not have immediate/short-term rewards. For better or for worse, people have kind of forgotten how to make organic connections with people and nurture them into relationships; in fact, people sometimes think it’s kind of weird when I say that I have met none of the guys I dated on apps (unless you count the guy I met in an Uber Pool, in which case, ok, I met him on an app but Uber isn’t really meant to be a dating app!). Right now, though, we won’t be going around in rideshares or chatting people up at bars, or meeting them at parties hosted by mutual friends; we’ll still be reliant on apps, and how we will use them is going to have to change.
Now, if you are thinking, girl, this is supposed to be a food blog, a) look at the title of this post and b) I’M GETTING TO THAT! I was long distance with my now-former partner for a long time, and my sister and her bf are possibly the queen and king of long distance dates (in grad school in totally different parts of the country), and we’ve both lived far away from some of our closest friends & each other (bc of college/grad school/work), so I figured I’d share some (food related) ideas for connecting with friends or dating partners (or prospective dating partners, I guess):
- Order takeout together–from the same place, or from different places, and eat it over video chat. My sister and her boyfriend even order each other stuff and arrange to have it delivered at the same time, but don’t tell the other where it’s coming from or what it is-~-it’s a total surprise!
- Cook a recipe together over video chat (another pro tip from my sister and her bf)
- Just eat together! Planning a meal with friends can help reduce your sense of social isolation even while practicing “social distancing”. Eat whatever you were going to be eating, or have a cup of coffee, over video chat. Studies show that eating with others is better for your mental health, and helps you eat more, which can be really important since stress often messes with our appetites.
- Watch movies or shows together while texting/messaging. I personally really like doing this with Disney movies (because they’re easy to follow even if you have to glance away) and competition shows, like the Great British Bake-Off or Top Chef, since you’ll start rooting for (and against) contestants
GRAD SCHOOL
Okay, first thing’s first: you need to cut yourself some slack.
Look, expecting yourself to perform at your usual level of productivity may not be reasonable right now. There’s a pandemic going on that they say is going to disrupt our lives and our work for 12-18 months, most likely. It’ll change important aspects of work, social life, and health behavior, and honestly I would not be too surprised if it resulted in some pretty notable social and economic changes (e.g. universal basic income, paid sick leave, paid family/medical leave, greater access to jobs for people with disabilities, and a re-conceptualizing of the internet as a public good). Many of us will have to hold off on things we were really looking forward to, such as travel, conferences, etc. You may have family or friends who are sick, or get sick yourself, and the anticipatory stress of this is going to make things really difficult. Many of us are now home with family members, roommates, significant others, and/or pets; for parenting grad students, trying to produce at the usual level may well be impossible while providing childcare and homeschooling supervision. We can’t just pretend this is business as usual, just from our homes instead of our offices, when it very definitely is not.
Eventually, we will find a middle ground that allows people to go back to work when and in ways in which it is safe. But in the meantime, it’s okay to realize that you’re not going to suddenly start cranking out papers and grant proposals from your living room. You’ll also need to develop new routines, find ways to hold yourself accountable, and balance your work goals with all of the other things you are dealing with. Here is some great advice I have collected from friends who do work from home, or have done so previously:
- Don’t do work from bed. Choose one or more spaces in your home where you do work, and just work from there. For me, it is my dining table and my desk (and sometimes I do grade on the couch with the TV on).
- Squishy surfaces like couches, beds, and arm chairs encourage/facilitate slouching and offer much less back support when you’re sitting, so even if you feel like you want to be sitting on them, try to limit the amount of time you spend on your sofa, for the sake of your lower back. It may not be super easy to get a chiropractor appointment for a while.
- Put on music or something minimally distracting on TV (e.g. something you’re not invested in, or something you’ve seen a zillion times before and therefore don’t need to pay close attention). Sometimes working from home can be *too* quiet, which can be distracting in its own way. There are lots of great ambient noise albums and such online and on Spotify, as well.
- Get dressed. It doesn’t have to be what you’d wear to the office/to class, but even if it’s athleisure, change out of your pajamas and into actual clothes, to help your brain be clear that you are starting your productive hours.
- Set productive hours! If you’re a grad student, I highly recommend setting aside several hours a week to exclusively work on research/writing projects whether you are working from home or working on campus or some combination thereof (and by “I highly recommend”, I mean my advisor and the author of How To Write a Lot recommend and I adhere to their advice). If you already have those hours, KEEP THEM! Do not sacrifice the hours you already set aside for writing, since it’ll help you maintain some semblance of your normal routine. Decide at what time you’ll start working and, maybe even more importantly, what time you’ll stop. Working from home can blur the boundaries of work life/home life, but those boundaries are still needed.
- Take breaks! When you’re at work/at school, you probably don’t work nonstop for hours on end, right? You get up, walk around, stretch, get coffee. Do those things! They help your productivity, sure, but they’re also just good for you.
- Say no to things. Working from home means people assume you have lots of extra time, sometimes. It’s okay to say that you can’t take something on right now, or that you have to pass on something. It’s okay to set and maintain those boundaries.
- Eat lunch! You still have to eat, and just because you’re working from home doesn’t mean you need to eat through lunch. Take a break while you eat and watch an episode of something, or read a book for fun, or call/video chat with a friend.
BACK TO FOOD
I hope at least some of those tips will help you!! In the meantime, I wanted to leave you all with some recipes/resources for cooking during this crisis. For me, this has really challenged how I approach meal planning and cooking, because there are still a lot of ingredients not available in stores, including key vegetables I need (which makes no sense to me; if you weren’t eating swiss chard before this, why are you suddenly buying it now??), which means I’m having to improvise my plans while I’m at the grocery store based on what is there. For some, now is a great time to consider batch cooking, especially if you can freeze some of it for later. It may be a great opportunity to prepare things ahead of time, freeze them, and throw them in your slow cooker. Or you may be in need of some simpler recipes based more around shelf-stable goods. Either way, here are some recipes and resources that may be of help:
- Smitten Kitchen has a collection of recipes based around shelf-stable pantry ingredients, like beans, rice, and grains. These include some pretty great staple recipes, like her recipe for a really good pot of chickpeas topped with burrata, three bean chili, barley risotto with beans and greens, and a basic yellow dhal.
- Cookie and Kate, another food blog I love, recently published a list of 50 Pantry-Friendly Recipes and Substitutions that Work. Her list has a lot of recipes that keep well in the fridge for several days and freeze well for later, perfect for if you want to batch cook, and includes things like black bean and sweet potato enchiladas, brown rice risotto with mushrooms, and mujaddara (a dish made with brown rice and lentils, topped with caramelized onions)
- Pinch of Yum has an awesome post that will walk you through what’s in her fridge, freezer, and pantry, and how she’s planning to make a wide range of foods using the ingredients you see. She also has a great collection of freeze-ahead meals, including freezer meal beef ragu, freezer-to-slow-cooker wild rice and mushroom soup, and of course, her freezer-friendly chicken meatballs (she has a lot of recipes in which you can use these, too!)
- The Kitchn has created a guide consisting of 100 Ways to Turn Pantry Staples Into Complete Meals. While I haven’t made these, I’ve yet to have a bad experience working with recipes from the Kitchn, and hey, it’s your life and your palate!
- If you’re just getting into meal prep now, take a look back at some of my previous posts on meal prepping: this post covers batch cooking and using leftovers for lunch, while this one covers cooking techniques suited to batch cooking such as slow cooking and sheet pan meals.